Clinical Psychologist Offering Therapy for Men Struggling with Burnout
Exhausted but your mind won't stop? Snapping at the people you love, then hating yourself for it minutes later? Coming home from a holiday just as drained as when you left?
I work with men who tell everyone they're "fine, just busy," and are quietly starting to wonder if this is just what life feels like now.
I use ACT and EMDR to build a plan around what's actually driving your burnout, not a generic template, so you're not wasting time on advice that's already failed you. Most of the men I work with have never sat across from a therapist before; I know how to make that first step easy, not something you have to brace for.
This takes you to a short screening form, around three minutes. I read every one myself and reply within one working day to arrange the call.
How ACT and EMDR Therapy Can Help You Move Past Burnout
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and EMDR are both practical, evidence based approaches, not abstract analysis. ACT is well evidenced for burnout, stress and anxiety, helping with what's maintaining things day to day, the thoughts, feelings and patterns keeping you stuck. If something from your past is still holding you back, EMDR helps you reprocess it and move on. I build every plan around what's actually driving your burnout, not a fixed template, so you're not wasting time on advice that's already failed you.
What Happens After You Book Your Free Consultation
You'll fill in a short screening form, it takes about three minutes, and I read every one myself and reply within one working day. If it looks like a good fit, we arrange a free 20 minute consultation call to check we're right for each other, with no obligation to book anything further.
Online and In-Person Support for Professional Men in London
I'm an HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist and trained EMDR therapist, working almost entirely with men who've never sat across from a therapist before. I see clients in person in London, and online wherever you are.
Testimonials
"This has been the most productive work I've ever done for myself..."
"For me it's been the practical tools that have really made the difference and given me the ability to work through the challenges I've had. It's been a very practical approach to understanding how my reactions and the way I feel are linked to how my brain works. It's helped me realise that this is a normal way for my brain to process things and it's genuinely improved my quality of life and overall wellbeing. Overall this has been the most productive work I've ever done for myself. I've felt supported throughout and always listened to, and I've been given tools that genuinely helped me understand how to move forward. It always felt like a safe space."
"It has been really helpful for me to regain control and the ability to be present..."
"Being able to unhook myself from overthinking and negative thoughts. Being able to label them as narratives and then ground myself was really helpful. Also, I feel like we were initially headed down one path and Dr Hayes adjusted things depending on how sessions went. It has been really helpful for me to regain control and the ability to be present. I am extremely grateful for this."
"Dr Brett Hayes made me feel comfortable beyond anyone I have ever spoken with..."
"Dr Brett Hayes made me feel comfortable beyond anyone I have ever spoken with. His demeanor is calm, understanding and open in providing a safe environment to share experiences. I personally have never experienced therapy in any capacity but Dr Brett made me feel as though I could share anything without the fear of judgment. I sincerely enjoyed my time speaking with him and would recommend him to anyone who is experiencing mental health worries."
Common Questions
Do you only work with men?
Yes. I work exclusively with men, most often professional men who are used to holding everything together and are quietly running on empty.
How do I know if what I'm feeling is burnout?
If you're exhausted even after rest, snapping at people you love, or feeling flat despite things looking fine on paper, that's often what burnout looks like. We can talk it through properly on the consultation call.
How is this different from just talking to a counsellor?
I'm a Clinical Psychologist, so sessions are built around a specific plan for what's driving your burnout, using ACT and EMDR, rather than open-ended conversation alone.
What actually happens on the free consultation call?
It's a relaxed twenty minute conversation to check we're a good fit. No pressure to book anything afterwards. It starts with a short screening form that takes about three minutes.
What is ACT therapy?
ACT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, is a practical, evidence based approach that helps you build a different relationship with difficult thoughts and feelings, rather than trying to eliminate them. It's well evidenced for burnout, stress and anxiety, focusing on what's keeping you stuck day to day and helping you move toward what actually matters to you.
What is ACT and EMDR therapy, and how do they work together?
ACT helps you build a different relationship with the thoughts and feelings driving your burnout, and it's well evidenced for exactly that. EMDR helps process specific experiences from your past that are still affecting you today. Used together, they give you a practical way forward that fits what's actually going on for you.
Do I need a formal diagnosis to book a session?
No, you don't need one. If you've already been diagnosed with something specific, that's not a problem either. As a Clinical Psychologist, I'm trained to work with a wide range of difficulties.
Do you offer online and in-person support?
Both. You can choose whichever works better for you, and switch between them if your circumstances change.
How many sessions will I need?
It depends on what's driving your burnout. There's no fixed program. We build the plan around your situation, not a set number.
How much does therapy cost?
Cost is £170 online or £195 in person, for 50 minutes. If you just want to get unstuck on something specific, I also offer shorter 30 minute sessions at £68.
Is what I say confidential?
Yes. What you share stays between us, within the usual professional and legal limits that apply to all registered psychologists.